Deciding what you want in life is not easy.
For some of us it’s almost impossible.
Commenting on my last post, Steve says he doesn’t know what he wants in life and, as usual, it got me thinking.
Let’s grab that table in the corner and see what we can do to help him and anyone else reading this who’s in the same boat. There’s quite a crowd here today so we should get lots of ideas flowing.
It was like that for me for a while. When I was 17 I had a bit of a mid-teen crisis.
I’d always thought I’d be a teacher and was all set to take my A-Levels and go on to college.
But doubts began to haunt me and I started to wonder whether I should do something else. I looked around and took a Saturday job in our local hospital to see if I could be a nurse, I applied for a position as an Assistant Matron (!) in a privates school and I volunteered in a Care Home.
And guess what? After all that – my instincts led me back to where I started.
Here’re some questions to ask yourself, when you don’t know what you really want in life.
Let’s write your answers down because it’ll make you think harder, focus and be honest.
1. What’s going well for you at the moment?
In your job? Education? Relationships? Family matters? (Please don’t write, ‘Not a lot.’ That won’t do.)
2. What does this tell you about your strengths?
Have you got people skills? Organisation skills? Patience? Listening skills? Empathy? What else? (Yes, you do have strengths…)
3. Are you using your strengths as much as you can in your everyday life?
No? What can you do about that?
4. What isn’t going well for you?
Write a list. Now, which item on your list would you most like to cross off?
Is that realistic? If so, what would be the first step to take to change the situation and are you willing to take that step?
5. When do you believe you’ll get what you want …when you’re 40/50/60/?
Can you move that date forward?
If not, what are you going to do while you wait???
6. What are you sure you don’t want in life?
If you could magically change that, what would you magic away first?
Can you do something about that right now? Just something easy? Something small?
I can see you’re writing away, thinking about these questions and hopefully, coming to one or two conclusions. Let’s take a few moments to go back and see if you can add anything to what you’ve written, anything that occurred to you as you went along.
So… are you a little clearer now, about what you really want in life?
Unless you know what you want, you risk drifting along, rudderless. If that suits you, that’s fine. But it’s far more satisfying to have an aim, a goal, however small it might be.
Over to you,
Tell me exactly what you want in your life and I’ll help you to take the steps to get it. Why not share it with others, in the comments too.
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