We all have one.
That one strangling, disabling fear that prevents us from doing stuff.
But the good news is, it doesn’t have to be like that!
Fear will only prevent us from doing stuff… if we let it.
It’s up to you and to me to deal with the fear and live life as fully as we can.
I’m not talking about a Phobia here. That’s different. A phobia is much worse. Today I’m focussing on ‘fear’.
Here’s a list of 10 fears I’ve been told about by clients over the years:
- Fear of spiral stair cases,
- Fear of the London Underground,
- Fear of driving on the motorway,
- Fear of public speaking,
- Fear of spiders (even tiny ones),
- Fear of deep water,
- Fear of travelling abroad,
- Fear of death,
- Fear of failure,
- Fear of success.
Fear can hold us back, no doubt about it and, at the time, we don’t believe we can do anything about it.
We feel powerless to face it. But…we can find the power to face it, if we look in the right place.
Here’s my solution to the problem of facing a fear that’s holding you back.
- You must choose.
You need to choose whether you really, really want to do this… or not.
Motivation is key here. The stronger your motivation, the more likely you are to chase the fear away.
- You are in charge…
…not the fear. When you feel very afraid, you’re vulnerable. It would be so easy to run away and hide, like a child who’s afraid of a monster.
But you’re no longer a child. You have strategies! You’re determined!
- You need to make a start,
and I suggest you start by making a plan.
Do a Brainstorm of
- all the steps you could take,
- all the help you could seek,
- all the hurdles you’ll face,
- all the sources of information you can use,
- all the opportunities you’ll have when the fear recedes.
If it will help, keep a diary/journal as you go along of everything you do. When you read back over the entries you’ll be amazed at the progress you’re making.
- You need to talk.
By this I mean, talk to anyone you know who shares your fear. When you open up and talk about your fear, it seems less fearful. Strange, but true. It’s as if you’re ganging up on this fear and forcing it to shrink…
- You need a ‘deadline’.
When I dealt with my fear of snakes (it was a phobia but this still applies) I had the end in mind. This motivated me to keep going and take the steps I’d planned.
And you know what?
My acute, disabling fear (phobia) has gone. Completely.
How did that happen?
Because I did all the things on the list above.
It worked for me and it will work for you.
If you want it badly enough.
In the Comments, tell us…
- What is the one fear that’s holding you back?
- What steps are you/will you take to deal with it?
- Which fears have you faced up to now?
- What was the most helpful step you took to deal with it?