Feeling lost in life happens to us all.
I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve felt -
- out of my depth,
- frozen with worry about what to do,
- worry about whether to do it,
- worry about how to do it,
- worry about… well… everything.
Here’re two stories for you…
1. Remember when you were child?
Out playing, in the woods?
But it’s getting dark.
Mum will be wondering where you’ve got to.
There’s no-one here but you.
The Big Beech stares at you, its evil face carved on the trunk, leering, mocking you.
Its knobbly, bony branches reach out to touch you, to catch you.
There’s no-one here to help.
You start to run and there’s a pounding of feet on the earthy path. You can’t see it but you know it’s there – the Monster.
Everyone knows there’s a Monster in the woods.
No-one’s seen it, but you know it’s true.
You panic, you start to cry, clutching your wrist, wishing you’d worn your watch like mum told you, so you’d be home at tea time.
All the paths look equally scary.
2. Remember when you were a child?
Climbing trees with the gang?
You play hide and seek.
Suddenly there’s no-one here but you, hiding in the friendly branches of the Big Beech.
You’re safe up here, waiting to be found.
The initials on the trunk tell the world that ‘LW xx AV’.
You giggle at their soppiness.
You hear a pounding on the earthy path.
They find you and the game’s over.
The summer stretches ahead.
All’s right in your world.
When I thought about how it feels to be lost in life I realised that it can actually be a ‘good thing’.
Here’s my take on why there’s no need to panic when you feel lost in life.
1. When you feel lost all it means is you need to take some time out from worrying.
Worrying about your life’s direction gets you no-where.
I felt sooo out of my depth and lost when I had to take a course in computer programming. It was not my choice and I hated it.
I was very worried.
What did I do?
I left the course.
It wasn’t for me.
I found my way.
2. When you feel lost it means you need to look at all your options.
Writing down your choicesis good.
There are always choices.
Look at them objectively if you can, and consider all the pro’s and con’s.
No need to rush.
Take your time to make a considered choice.
If the path still isn’t clear, stay where you are until the daylight comes.
3. When you feel lost, you need to look at your life in the ‘daylight.’
There is no Monster.
No need to panic.
All the ‘bad things’ you’re fearing are all in storyland. They’re not real.
You have to look beyond the creepy face on the Big Beech in the darkness and see those sweet carved initials in the daylight instead. The enormous hurdles and steep mountains you’re imagining are only in your mind.
There is a way round or over them…
if you take your time to think it through.
It’s OK to stop and take time out. What’s your hurry?Things usually become clearer if you wait. Your brain works overtime while you sleep and you wake refreshed and less stressed.
All you need to do is wait and they’ll find you.
Your summer will stretch ahead.
Take your time, choose your path in the daylight, and you’ll find your way.
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