Are you a worrier?
We all worry at times. It’s natural. But some of us allow our worries to dominate our lives. Every new step seems beset with the barbed wire of worry and we stay ‘stuck’.
Today I’m taking a closer look at ‘worry’, to see what you can do to prevent it keeping you in its claws.
Here are 10 things that you might worry about :
- losing your job
- the end of the world (But ‘what if…?”)
- being in debt
- your washing being ruined by the rain (yes, you do…)
- having a ‘bad hair day’ (men also!)
- being unattractive
- getting older
Do any of these ring any bells for you?
Fear of …
- being unemployed
- not getting better
- being unable to cope
- not getting your washing dry (I know, it’s silly, but…)
- looking unattractive
- not finding a partner
Worry is caused by the fear of being ‘eaten by the wolf’.
Should you stop worrying?
After all, it’s not all bad, is it? Worry alerts you to something that might happen. It can help you to prepare for a problem. We all react to pending problems with a tinge or more of worry. It’s healthy to be aware that we’re not invincible. Allow yourself to worry for a while but then you have to make this key decision -
Can you change/improve/prevent the situation you’re worrying about?
Look again at my list of 10 things you might worry about. For each ‘worry’, decide whether you can do anything about it.
Are there any steps you can take to help the situation? Yes? Then make a start. Take one step towards lessening your worry. Then another. And another.
Result? The worry becomes less. You have taken control. Worrying has done its job of alerting you but now its job is done.
No? Then all you’re doing is making yourself suffer.
You worry bucket will overflow. Your life will become stunted, restricted, less of a life because it’s flooded with worry. You’ll remain stuck, unable to move forward, to enjoy new experiences, all because you allow worry to cloud your days.
The only person who can prevent this happening is… you.
Try to replace your worry with a positive emotion.
- Worry is negative.
- You screw up your face.
- You dig your nails into your clenched fists.
- You frown.
- You bite your nails.
- Worry lines appear.
- You worry about that too!
If you can learn to replace worrying with excitement at trying something new instead of fearing it, eager anticipation instead of anxiety, a positive plan to deal with the situation instead of dreading it, then your worry will fade.
‘Every cloud has a silver lining’ may well be a cliche, but it can be true.
- Redundancy can bring new opportunities,
- Illness can bring out our hidden strengths,
- A ‘bad hair day’? well. Need I say more?
Next time you feel a ‘worry‘ lurking in the shadows, just decide if there’s anything you can do about the situation. And … do it… If there’s nothing to be done, don’t waste one more precious moment of your life struggling in the ‘worry trap’. Just… let it go.
What do you think?
- What are you worried about at the moment?
- Is worrying helping the situation?
- What are you going to do about it?
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