I’m about to ruffle a few feathers. Some of you will be up in arms, I’m sure. I’m not apologising for saying this so I hope you’re in a good mood!
I don’t see the point of personal accounts on Facebook.
I just don’t get it. I’m even thinking of deleting my personal account. I’d love it if you could explain to me why I shouldn’t do that.
Here’s why I don’t see the point of Facebook.
1. Facebook has nothing to do with true friendship.
- I wrote last week about what makes a true friend. None of the questions on my friendship test were relevant to Facebook friends. Were they? (I’ll pause while you pop back to this post to check.)
- As far as I can tell, all my Facebook ‘friends’ are simply connections, aquaintances. Apart from family members, my FB ‘friends’ are people I’ve never met, am never likely to meet or have met a few times. So why would I want to be sending them messages all the time?
2. No-one posts anything important.
- ‘I’ve just made a great pizza.’ And your reason for telling me that is… ?
- ‘I’m about to go to the dentist.’ And your reason for telling me is… ?
- ‘It’s raining here.’And your reason for telling me is… ?
- ‘Listen to this song… it’s a great track.’ (You fill in the blank…)
What’s the point?
3. Facebook feeds on loneliness.
- If you don’t get out much or are unable to, I can see a need to get in touch with the outside world. But doesn’t Instant messaging do that? Or texting? Or picking up the phone?
- I feel sad to picture lonely people spending huge amounts of time sending short, totally uninspiring messages on FB.
4. Facebook enables cyber bullying.
- I’ve read about teens receiving insulting comments or images via FB. These spread like wildfire and do great harm to the receiver.
- Rumours are started, vicious sometimes, and these feed on each other and get out of control.
- I’ve heard of suicides even, as a result of this behaviour.
5. Facebook tells lies.
- Facebook tells you how popular you are.
No! It doesn’t!
It tells you how many superficial ‘friends’ you have.
It tells you how many of these ‘friends’ are so bored they have nothing better to do than write unimportant messages on someone’s ‘Wall’ where everyone can read it.
Why do they do that? Please tell me.
- Facebook encourages people to keep in touch.
No! It doesn’t!
It allows people to send messages rather than keeping in touch by phone or email.
It keeps people glued to their computer rather than getting out and interacting in the real world.
6. Facebook encourages laziness.
I get very irritated when I get a message telling me that ‘one of my friends has a birthday this week’. It happened today. But when I checked, the ‘friend’ was someone I hardly knew.
I keep a note of all my ‘real friends’ birthdays and I actually go to the shop to choose a birthday card for them and send it by ‘snail mail’. It’s sad if the habit of sending cards will disappear and all greetings will be sent via Facebook.
Over to you!
- What do you believe is the Point of Facebook?
- Why should I keep my personal account?
P.S. Since writing this post, I’ve set up a ‘business’ FB Page for the Confidence Café. And yes! I’ve cancelled my personal account.
Don’t waste any more time collecting friends on FB, join this Worthwhile Community instead…